I really debated whether to write this article or not, but I think its something that needs to be said.
In the past 20 years or so, it has become politically incorrect to say what you really think. But that doesn’t mean that people still don’t think it.
Now I think this is a good thing when it comes to things people cannot change. You can’t change where you were born, or who your parents were, or what color you skin is, or if you were born with some sort of physical or mental problems, and so on.
But I think this has led to an air of acceptance in areas where people can, and should change.
Take me for example. I still smoke. Yeah, I know. I do all this other healthy stuff, and I still smoke. I never claimed to be a saint…
Anyway, I’m sure there are many people who are disgusted by the fact that I smoke, yet they tolerate it and pretty much keep quiet about it.
Now, the funny thing is – if someone harps on me to quit, it pretty much goes in one ear and out the other. You can show me the black lung and all that other stuff. But, if people were to voice how disgusting it is, and how gross I smell, or how stupid I look outside smoking in the cold, or what a loser I am – that’s a little more emotional.
I think all this kindness is just enabling bad behavior.
Like the neighborhood drunks. Everyone is nice to them, and seemingly tolerant – but boy when they get home, they sure have a lot to say. Now, is the drunk not aware that everyone thinks he/she is an obnoxious idiot?
And when it comes to fat, I don’t know of anyone – thin or fat that doesn’t think it’s disgusting.
We all watch fat people eat. We watch how they load their plates at the buffet. We watch how they don’t fit on a chair, or how the rolls spread out in plain view between their shirt and their pants. We watch how they roll thier shopping carts full of pop and snacks in the grocery store, with barely a hint of a vegetable. Even fat people talk about other fat people.
Now I’m not saying that we should go back to being cruel. But I think its a good thing for all of us to be aware that people are watching and they still think what they think, even if they’re not allowed to voice it where you can hear it.
I think it would be a good thing for all of us to be more embarrassed by our own bad behaviors. Maybe that would make us a little more motivated to stop them.
What do you think?
P.S. Just writing this is making me think about how stupid I DO look (and feel) smoking out in the cold….