I often hear, “oh its easy for you – you only have one kid.”
When my daughter was little, we often had a houseful of kids. But as she got older, it got to be less and less. Then she went to live at her Dad’s for a few years and I settled into only having myself to worry about.
Having her back home has taken some adjustment. It took me a while to get back in the groove and be able to handle it all. But you know what? Its really all in your head. We tell ourselves that something is going to be hard, and we make it so.
When you just focus on what you need to do without judgement – its usually pretty easy. Once I let go of the mental struggle; everything got easier.
So then, my daughter made plans for 4 of her friends from her Dad’s neighborhood to come up for the weekend. I was mentally freaking out. How am I going to keep up? How am I going to feed them all? Blah, blah, blah…
As it turns out, it really wasn’t much harder. Bigger servings, more dishes, and more laundry – but not really any big deal.
The kids were all exhausted after a weekend up here. Sunday, they were playing Apples to Apples, and I swear, it was a group of Zombies! Sheesh!
Now I need to remind myself to stop making mountains out of the unknown, and just stay focused on what I need to do. It usually turns out fine in the end.