Make Mom Happy for Mothers Day

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What every Mother wants –

A house that stays clean

A sink without dirty dishes

Calm

No fighting

For you to get up and do it for yourself

Kind words

Hugs

For someone to know what she would really want.

Many times, people will buy gifts because they’re popular. Does your mom have any use for these, or even want them? Many times not.

Oh sure, we appreciate the thought, but if you really knew your mother, you would know what makes her happiest.

Would your mother be happier with a bunch of flowers in a vase, or a tomato plant? I would take the tomato plant.

Some mothers would love a day at the spa. Others think its a ridiculous waste of money.

Some mothers actually like to cook, and would rather eat at home than fight the crowds at the restaurants. For many mothers, lovingly feeding their family is a source of joy. You do the dishes 😉

Some mothers don’t want to cook, but don’t want to deal with the crowds.

Some mothers relish being taken out.

Do you know what your Mom would really, really want?

Think about it.

To all Moms –

May your day be filled with what makes you happy

Happy Mothers Day!


Mommy Dearest or Donna Reed?

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My sister and I were talking about Joan Crawford and Judy Garland and how our own mother had similar traits. It’s a pain that never goes away.

Mothers are the most powerful people in the world. We create leaders, or terrorists, self confident, or messed up, or healthy or sick adults.

Yes, the role of a mother is difficult, and time consuming.

It’s gotten to the point where kids aren’t disciplined, or fed right, or they don’t get enough sleep or exercise, Parents are working hard, and often don’t feel like dealing with kids when they get home. Dinner is fast food or something microwaved so that these parents can sit in front of the TV and unwind. After all, they’re entitled, aren’t they?

Maybe you are entitled, but the kids gotta come first. I know of a couple of parents like those above that are going to be in for a rude awakening when their kid gets old enough to move out.

That’s what Mother’s Day really is all about. The mothers that gave their all to make sure that their kids had the best start in life.

The mothers who lovingly made fresh dinners, packed fresh lunches, and in their spare time, made fresh chocolate chip cookies.

The mothers who kept a home where the kids weren’t embarrassed to bring their friends.

Many of these tremendous mothers worked. And most of these fantastic women don’t get any fanfare – except for Mother’s day, birthdays, and Christmas.

Instead, I hear comments like this one I heard today, “I’ll have to cook. My husband and my son won’t lift a finger to fix a meal or help clean up.”

So, what’s the whole point here?

If you’re lucky enough to have a good mother – give her a day off. Give her a clean house, and a day off from cooking. Show her the appreciation she deserves. Is she the most important person in your life, or a slave? I mean, c’mon…

If you are a mother, take this time to reflect on the job you’ve been doing as a mother. What will your kids be like when they grow up? Will they be healthy, confident leaders in society? Or will they be fat and sick, and not able to function in society?

If you know of a kid who has a troubled relationship with their mom, or an absent mom – be there for them. You can make a difference. I’ve had many fabulous mothers step in to give me advice, encouragement, and guidance. I will always love them for it. And I’ve tried to do the same for troubled kids that come in and out of our lives. It’s not the same as having your own great mother, but it sure is a whole lot better than none at all.

I’ve read your stories of selfish mothers, alcoholic mothers, and absent mothers. And I know firsthand how you’ve tried to function normally even though you never really had a good example.

And I’ve read your touching stories of great mothers who are now gone.

In the book Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul, and a Second Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul, there are a number of stories about memories left by great mothers and grandmothers. They are stories that I can’t really relate to – but I dream about what it must be like, and I aspire to, even though I was never really equipped. (These books are great gifts ideas if your mom doesn’t own a copy. I pick it up and read a story here and there when I have a few minutes to relax. I thought it was a corny gift when I first got it, but it turned out to be a thoughtful gift.)

For some reason, mothers touch our lives in ways no one else can.

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What to Buy Mom

 

Mother’s day is right around the corner, and everywhere people are fretting – ‘What should I buy Mom?’

Speaking as a Mom, this should be really easy – but I find it amazing that people know so little about their mothers.

What does your Mom like?

I don’t know.

What’s her favorite perfume?

I don’t know.

What’s her favorite flower?

I don’t know.

What does she really like to do?

I don’t know.

I personally want my daughter to stop trying to buy me clothes – well, except the tank tops last year were really great. But for the most part, we have different tastes. She would also prefer that I stop trying to buy her clothes too.

Every year I make it a point to tell her my favorite things.

A bottle of my favorite cologne, One stem of my favorite flower, or a box of my favorite candy would be greatly appreciated. You can buy me the same thing every year, I don’t care. Those are my favorite things.

And join me for dinner. If it’s going to be a restaurant, let’s not go on mother’s day when everything is a circus. Do that with your mother in law. (Just kidding)

That’s it.

Show her you’ve been listening and you know what her favorite things are – and spend some time with good food and relaxed conversation.

What more could a mom ask for?

Quit making it so hard – on both of you!