I know I have. And perfectionism can really mess up your life!
I wanted to be the perfect mom that is respected, yet adored and loved deeply.
I wanted delicious fast meals that turned out perfect every time.
I wanted perfect health, the perfect body, a positive mindset, the perfect job, the perfect child, and on and on…
Makes you tired just thinking about it, doesn’t it?
We can’t be perfect – but you can be the best you can be.
There is a difference.
Now I’m not talking about making excuses. Things like, well, that’s the best I can do, when you know darned well its not.
Or the classic – “I’m too tired…” While it probably is true that you don’t feel like it, it really is rare that you’re too tired to fold the laundry for example. It takes maybe 10 minutes to fold and put laundry away.
The funny thing is, if you just do it, you’ll feel a lot better.
You’ll feel like a better you! Not to mention the relief that things are done.
You’ll find that most things around the home really only take a few minutes when you keep up with them. It makes life so much easier!
And honestly, its the little things that will keep you feeling grounded when life gets out of control.
But trying to be perfect?
That can take us in another direction. One where things never get done. Where we’re constantly stressed and under pressure…or is it a convenient excuse?
How perfection can trip you up
I like a neatly folded t-shirt as well as the next girl, but my t-shirt drawer doesn’t need to be a showcase.
I know more than one person who has to have their t-shirts and socks folded perfectly. They take a ton of time folding each piece… and nothing else gets done.
I’m struggling with perfectionism a little bit now. I’ve moved to a new place that makes life really easy while I go through chemo and my next surgery. It is not going to be perfect no matter how hard I try. My goal is to make it pretty, comfortable, and functional without spending a ton of money.
And the bathroom here?
There was years of rust build up. We have unfiltered well water. It did give me an opportunity to test some cleaners. But no amount of scrubbing was going to get it clean in one fell swoop. I have to use the ‘wear away principle.’ I have to accept that it’s going to take a while, and it may never be perfect. I’ll do a separate post on that soon.
The moral of the story?
Keep up with things.
Don’t let build up happen in the first place.
When It does, remind yourself that it may take consistent actions a little at a time to get it done, and just do the best you can without driving yourself crazy.
Practice these mental habits and you will be amazed at how much easier your life gets!